Wouldn’t you agree? I mean, you’d think the people closest to you who have been in a similar situation would tell you the truth, right? But then again, just having been through it myself – I'm struggling to gather together the right collection of syllables that can be mushed together to convey my experience, an experience many people likely share but never speak of.
I can tell you it’s not sleep deprivation or raging hormones- it’s the fact that motherhood is the most overwhelming adventure I have ever been on (and it’s only been 2 weeks people!). Now, just to be clear- I don’t want this to turn into a breastfeeding, baby, bottles, burping blog! So it’s safe to say you can read on without hearing my motherhood rant… Sporadic references may be featured.
I like to think my salon has a great flow. Blame it on the weekly sessions of meditating yoga but it’s fair to say I don’t stress half as much as I used to as a salon owner. Because I always got through to the other side- ALIVE! A total contrast to the first weeks of motherhood- I’m breathing… only just. I’ll keep you posted.
My pregnancy was textbook. Everything happened that was meant to happen- good days and not so good days. Giving birth at 39 weeks- my labour wasn’t what some women would call a challenge. Three hours, standing up and no drugs. Don’t get me wrong- it was hard! But compared to the horror stories I’ve heard, mine wasn’t too bad, nothing major to report.
So after returning home with a little piece of me, you can understand the “it can’t be that bad” mentality. After all, everyone says how exciting it is! Just like opening your first salon/business. ‘It’s so exciting’, they said, ‘a couple of sleepless nights ha ha’… hmmmmm… ‘It’s hard but soooooo worth it’ another said.. uh-huh?
Two weeks in and I sit here: typing with one hand, nursing with the other. NU-THING could have prepared me for what I have faced in the last 2 weeks. I thought certain skills I have grown as a business owner could help me raise my son. NO-ONE tells you about these first few weeks. Society romanticises about having a baby. A bit like Facebook. They show you the surface story. The cool nursery purchases (as I did!). The sleeping like an angel photo’s. Etc Etc. I might be sounding a little ungrateful but I know that someone, somewhere who wants to be a mamma doesn't get to be one. Someone out there wishes they could be me, in my shoes. Someone wants to get up at three in the morning and at four and five and six. I get it.
This week I got some awesome advice off a very cool woman in this industry that helped me find myself again and she reminded me that it’s gonna be tough but it’s there for the taking: I can have it all??
So, some tips for new mamma’s or, more relevantly, new business owners…
-Be OK with change.
-Don't obsess about being tired.
-Don't compare yourself to others.
See you on the flipside,
PS: Hope I haven’t steered anyone clear of having their own piece of them to have and to hold… after all, I’d go back for another ;) It’s hard but it’s sooooooo worth it!
Pic: Jessica Schembri of Xsight Photo & Video