What the hell is happening to the world?! People are getting married at first sight!!! I won’t lie- I’m sorta addicted… as is the rest of Australia. As I sit here engrossed in the honeymooners new life together- why do I find it so boring that everything’s working out for them!? Just on the downlow I reckon I have enough drama in my life to entertain me but I suppose it’s basic psychology, no? The peeps behind the lens know they’re igniting something otherwise I wouldn’t feel the need to series link it AND add the extra 20mins! We’re talking marriage on steroids… it’s a throwback to when I first got married. I was one of those types that never went on a holiday with my hubby before we got married, nor did we live together first- it was good old fashioned get engaged, get married, move in! Looking back I can only see the rough times-but in recent years its all happy days… well not all happy days but you get the gist!
According to Wiki, marriage is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them. Sort of like many things in my life, right? Team, business, child, husband, family, career…. The list goes on! I draw your attention to the first. My team- what I think is the most important aspect of my business in this time. I am an emotional wreck at the best of times so the thought of my team pulling me through the hardest time in my business life brings a little tear to the perfect winged eyelined eye!
While sitting here contemplating why anyone would put themselves in this position, being set up by psychologists as part of an experiment to be willingly married to someone without knowing anything about them… seriously?! Then it sparks a thought: what if we hired at first sight?!
It would actually fast forward through the monotonous interview process which most of us dread anyway but that retention process- not sure what end of the spectrum it would turn up on. Imagine that, though? With apprentices… Hired, Honeymoon period, all fun and games, “and we can do this and we can do that…” and then 2 years in…
My second year of marriage was the hardest ever. I remembering sitting in my room, on the floor, sobbing… thinking, “is this as good as it gets??” It was monotonous, dull, stagnant and dead-end-ish. I did not want to become a statistic. I was not letting this go. I had to make this work. WE had to make this work. And we did- obvs! We have added #ftbabyandre to our VERY conjested lives. GOOD conjested!
So what I’m thinking is that it’s around the 2nd year mark with my apprentices the same thing happens- NOT the sobbing on the floor. It becomes a little stagnant and slower. The novelty has worn off. And we have to remember what was so exciting about it at the start. This is normally what gets most of us going, right? New things, new people, new challenges, new technique! It almost needs a little apprentice counseling. A one hour a week sesh to keep the love alive!
I am super proud to say that the 3 seniors I have, have all been my apprentices and are still with me. Of course it’s not in every case but I feel like the more bumpy history you have, the better the future looks. If you can get through a relationship with your team, better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, from this day forward until death do us part… I reckon you’ll lead a strong and solid relationship for all the days of your career life!